Temper Tantrum

You know that old cliche, about how if you lose a friend, it’s really their loss, and not yours?  Sometimes that’s not just a tired old cliche, it’s just a simple truth.

Over the past couple of days, I’ve been dealing with some drama in my Second Life.  And you know, no matter how hard you try to avoid it, sometimes it just happens.  And then sometimes you just have toxic people that can’t seem to live without it.

If you’ve read my ‘About Me‘, or if you know me at all, you know that I’m very into KittyCatS! Because you can breed cats, and they will make kittens, a lot of people come into this hobby looking at it as a potential business.  Some people do get very lucky, and they make profit on their KittyCatS.  For most of us, though, it is an enjoyable hobby, where we can sell some of our kittens off to offset the costs.   Right now, for a plethora of reasons, not the least of them being that the creative force behind KittyCatS was injured in a car wreck, the market isn’t exceptionally strong.   This has caused a lot of breeders to scale back, and some have even quit (at least for the time being).  As someone who co-owns and operates a KittyCatS secondary market, let me assure you that I, too, am feeling the strain of the market’s performance right now.  It’s okay, though, to me, because I have never been into  KittyCats to make the L$.  It’s fun for me! And certainly the creative force behind KittyCatS, Callie Cline, being essentially “benched” by her doctor from doing what she loves – creating new furs & traits – is not something for which we should lay blame upon her.  The market has always had a dip during this time of year, for as long as I’ve been involved, and although it’s been somewhat harder to go without Collection cats and new traits for Valentine’s day and the celebration of Spring it’s certainly not something that I was blindsided by!  Maybe that’s why I haven’t taken it all so very badly, I don’t know.  Maybe it’s the combination of having expected it, with or without the lack of new Collection cats, and the lack of expectation that KittyCatS would leave me rolling in L$!

In any case, despite not being personally dismayed or upset by the situation as it stands right now, I do understand the frustrations of others.  Everyone gets excited for the possibility of new traits and new costume cats! That said, though, there’s a difference between being disappointed and/or frustrated, and having a major fucking meltdown, and abusing people you claim to care about!

A former friend, and CatTales patron and renter, Sophia, posted on her Facebook timeline last Monday that she was done with KittyCatS.  She expressed her frustrations at lack of sales, and so on, and while I understood where she was coming from, and felt sad that she would no longer be breeding or coming to auctions, I must admit that I was in bed, asleep, when her initial posts were made, and so I was unable to react to them in what was, apparently, a timely fashion to Sophia.  After receiving few reactions to her post, she went on to say “I guess only [friend] cares!”   By the time that I did see Sophia’s comments on her Facebook, I was in Second Life preparing for my Tuesday morning auction, and dealing with some personal RL issues. I hadn’t had time to respond or reply.   I was able to set my real life issues aside in order to proceed with my auction, but after it ended, they were ongoing.  As my auction ended though, Sophia IMed me, asking if I had seen her post(s).  I replied that I had, but that I had not had time to respond, with the RL issues and the need to prepare for auction.  She told me that it was okay, we could talk about it later, but then proceeded to ignore me saying that I had not had time, or that anything was going on for me personally, and launch into her ranting about KittyCatS again.  Chat transcript below:

ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: hey kiki you read my im?
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: Hi, Sophia, yes I got your IM, and I saw your FB post, and I am sorry that I have not had enough time this morning to talk to you, just yet. My RL has been full of drama.
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: its ok hunny we can do that later
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i would like to tell you how i feel about the kittycats lately
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and how i feel about callie kline
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i will still drop by
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i just wont be breeding, buying, selling for a while
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: yes i will come over to see my friends
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: because you guys are my friends
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: ♥ HUGS
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: I am sorry that you are so upset, Sophia. And I do understand. I just wish there was a way to make it better, but all I can do is hope things improve and that you take good care of you in the mean time. I’m here if you need me – doesn’t matter if you’re into cats. ♥
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i will still be into cats, im just done with the auctions..
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: the no sales hurt too much
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: s my post o fb showed
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: catflippers
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and the theres callie
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: all she has to do is play sl to make a living
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i have to work my ass off
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: 12hrs a day
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: is it really that hard to play sl for an hour a day
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: plus the foodprices are not far
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: a 5 pack costs same as 5 one packs
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: thats unfair
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: when i order 5 usb stick on ebay i get a discount too
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and the perma pet thing i accidentally put in local
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i think they make enough on us during the first 121 days
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: so perma pet needs to be free
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: thats how i fel
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: Have you considered
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: that Callie also has people to pay
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: that she doesn’t get to keep every L$ that she gets
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: still
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: Kitten is on how many hours per day/ per week?
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: She must be fairly compensated
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: the scripter half surely gets his %
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: she made a forune on us without even leaving her front door
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: wow
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: So working from home means you don’t work
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: well i cant be on that much because i work.. rl work
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: this IS her rl work
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: yes
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: thts what im saying
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: no stress
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: you think it’s no stress working from home?
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: coffee when you want
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: don’t talk to me right now
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i have to drive 1.5hr to work
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: seriously, don’t
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: stress
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: ngging clients
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and drive 1.5hr back home
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: and YOU aren’t a nagging client to Callie?
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: working at home is easy lifze
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: oh yes, i’m sure she has NO stress
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: so i dont see why they cant come up with new traits
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: plus
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: but as someone who very much has worked from home…
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: when i get sick or injured theres back up
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: YOU shouldn’t talk about what you don’t know about
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: why isnt anyone backing up callie?
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: who backs up an ARTIST??
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: why do we have to wait for this long
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: without any news or updates
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: nono kiki this is why im fed up
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: they take advantage of us
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: there IS no back up for ART
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: th 1500L after feeding my cats for 121 days is not needed
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: they make enough!
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: unless and until you get to see her expenses vs. her take home, you have no way of knowing that
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: thats why im doner qwith kittycats
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: im done paying her rl bills
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: k, then don’t.
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: klet her find a real job
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: omg
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: lioke me
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and millions of others
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: PEOPLE WHO WORK FROM HOME STILL HAVE REAL JOBS
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: playing sl isnt a job
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: its fucking game
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: fuck you
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: you wanted to know how i feel?
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and you cant handle it?.
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: bye then
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: i got how you feel but you’re a judgmental bitch
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: no im not
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: *I* Have worked from home and i fucking had a real job
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: so yes, yes you are
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: im being taken advantage of
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: “get a real job”
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i said that playing sl isnt a job
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: she doesn’t “play” SL
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i never said working from isnt a real job
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i said that all she has to do is play sl for an hour a day to keep us happy
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: but she even cant do that
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: wow
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: you have NO idea how many hours she spends in photoshop
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: probably because YOU have never done
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: those overalls you wear
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: that was ME in PHOTOSHOP over TWELVE FUCKING HOURS working
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: on ONE item
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: nope i never have done that
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: that was many hours of starting over because something wasn’t right
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i do not lik this treatmznt we get
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: waiting wand waiting
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: so when YOU sit and owrk your ass off on a texture trying to make it the best you can for HOURS AND HOURS on a day in, day out basis, THEN you tell me about how it’s not work
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: no news no nothing
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: no new traits
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: i get it
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: a crap^py bd cat which hides jackshit
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: it’s all about you you you
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: eys you know why?
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: nevermnid she’s been injured, etc.
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: ITS MY RL MONEY GOIJNG INTO THIS!
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i had a car accident too
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i was nearly dead
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: but y’all forgot about right?
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: yes im isingnificant
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: did your job harass you about not coming into work when you were sick?
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: because i dont have a talent
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i ws never sick
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i went back to work the day after
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: with bruised ribs
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: oh, gee that’s so close to almost dead
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: doctor sends you back to work, but …
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: the airbags saved me
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: meanwhile HER doctor told her NOT to work
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: doctors put me home
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: unless she made it worse
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: but im stubborn and went to work anywayz
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: whatever you say perfect miss entitled sophia
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: it’s one thing to be fed up with cats
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: it’s another to tell ME who HAS paid my bills working my ass off from HOME that it’s no stress, that it’s not work, etc
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: my SL shop doesn’t make me much money
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: but that dosen’t mean i don’t do the same type of work in other mediums
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i never sai wxorking from home isnt working
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i said that playing sl isnt working
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: no, but that’s your problem
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: you think that the little time she’s in SL is the only time she’s “doing” something
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: whatever
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: you have your opinion and i have mine
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: yeah, and you just insulted the fuck out of me
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and i thought wewere friends
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: i thought so too
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: but apperently youre sticking up for her
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: instead of picking no sides
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: when did i say ‘kiki’ in this convo?
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: NEVER
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: apperently youre on her side
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: you don’t have to, when you talk shit about someone who does the VERY SAME THINGS i have done to support myself. (paying bills with art/creativity/etc.. from home)
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: and you call it no stress
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: read back pls
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: and you have NEVER walked a mile in her shoes OR mine
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i said that playing isnt a job
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: you don’t KNOW what her life is like
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and no stress
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: you got it all wrong
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: also food is totally abuse of us
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and the perma pet thing too
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: but yeah i see noiw
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: [13:11] ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: klet her find a real job
[13:11] (You): omg
[13:11] ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: lioke me
[13:11] ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: and millions of others
[13:12] (You): PEOPLE WHO WORK FROM HOME STILL HAVE REAL JOBS
[13:12] ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: playing sl isnt a job
[13:12] ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: its fucking game
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: like terror and arwen
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: in her ass elbow deep$µ
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: no, playing SL isn’t a job, but she doesn’t PLAY it
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: she spends a lot more time OUT of SL, in Photoshop, WORKING
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: but “people like you”
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: the oh-so-much better ones who have “real jobs”
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: look kiki
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: You get mad about shit and you get up on a high horse and you pass judgment about people and say REALLY SHITTY THINGS and then justify it
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: SO NO
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: I’m not LOOKING at anything

So, there’s a few things that I’d like to address from this chat transcript.  The first of them being this:

ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: hey kiki you read my im?
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: Hi, Sophia, yes I got your IM, and I saw your FB post, and I am sorry that I have not had enough time this morning to talk to you, just yet. My RL has been full of drama.
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: its ok hunny we can do that later
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i would like to tell you how i feel about the kittycats lately

Supposedly, I asked Sophia for her opinion, but as you can see, I said that I was sorry, but I had not had time.  You can also see that she said we could do it later. But, of course, she pressed forward anyway, giving absolutely zero care about what was going on in my life, or that I was not prepared to have this conversation at that point in time.  Sophia would go on to blow up on her Facebook timeline about how I was so very wrong to have asked for her opinion and then gotten upset when she gave it.  Too bad I never asked.

The next thing I’d like to address from this transcript is this section:

ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: she made a forune on us without even leaving her front door
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: wow
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: So working from home means you don’t work
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: well i cant be on that much because i work.. rl work
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: this IS her rl work
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: yes
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: thts what im saying
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: no stress
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: you think it’s no stress working from home?
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: coffee when you want
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: don’t talk to me right now
ღ Sσρнια Sυηşнιηε ღ: i have to drive 1.5hr to work
Kiki Lemondrop-Saito: seriously, don’t

I admit that I was initially upset at Sophia seemingly implying that working from home was terribly easy, and so to be sure, I asked for clarification: “So working from home means you don’t work”. She replied “Yes” and “That’s what I’m saying”.  There is a possibility that I misunderstood what she was replying to, however, given the context provided in the rest of her ranting and raving, I think I was pretty clear about what she was replying to.  As someone who designs in Second Life, and creates textures, I found this offensive.  I know how much time that I spend working on projects, and I can only imagine that Callie spends at least that, if not more.  It’s a lot of work.  Wanting to take some time calm down before continuing a conversation that I did not have time or desire to be having anyway, I then told Sophia “don’t talk to me right now” and “seriously, don’t”.  Which again, giving zero care about anything except herself, she ignored.

These are the things from chat history that I specifically wish to address, but there are several other things which were then taken to Facebook. Now, here is the part where I will say that I made a mistake.  Seriously upset at Sophia’s disregard for my time or my feelings, as well as her judgmental attitude towards creators, designers, and artists in Second Life, or anyone who works from home, I made a post on my timeline.  I should not have posted on Facebook, even though I left her name out of the post.  Below, you can see the screenshot of my post, which has since been removed from my timeline:

Firstly, I remind that I did not call Sophia out by name.  Rather, she outed herself.  And now, I’d like to respond to Sophia’s comments on my post, those which I have not and did not while the post was active on my timeline.

To the first of Sophia’s comments, I would simply say that I do not think that I need to go back to school to learn to read.  As I detailed earlier, she said what she did about working from home in the beginning of the conversation.  She did go on to say later that “playing SL is not work”.  (Although, I would still argue that creators, designers, and artists in SL do not log in to play.  Or at least, not just to play.)  I’d also add that this is the first time that she suggests that I am, in actuality, Callie Cline.  I could wish!  I am definitely not Callie Cline.  Additionally, my partner, Vortex, is not the KittyCatS scripter.

To the second comment, I am going to say a few things, but I am going to point out that all of these things are strictly my thoughts, and I have no evidence that I am correct.  Sophia works 60 hours per week while 5 months pregnant.  I could believe that that was true.  However, she spends a substantial amount of time logged in to Second Life herself.  She also supposedly has a little girl, of toddler age.  With all the time that she’s at work, plus all the time that she’s in Second Life, what kind of super woman is she, exactly? When does she spend time with her family? And lastly, hillbilly? Really? Classsy!  I think that I can read just fine, but she surely seems to have a problem with spelling.  As to the whining that I’m supposed to quit doing, I made one post, while upset and angry, regarding her behavior and attitude towards me, and I am the one whining.  Wow.

To the third comment, “I’m not stupid” (sorry, I can’t bear to leave the poor spelling and grammar in tact), I can only ask if that statement can actually be made in truth.  And again, I am not Callie Cline.

To the fourth comment, Callie doesn’t pay me, neither directly nor through anyone else.  I am not employed by KittyCatS, and likely never will be. And again, I must point out that I probably could have handled the answer to a question I asked, but since I never asked…  I guess we won’t know for sure.  As to Calie’s injury and my hospitalization, yes, it was simply a coincidence.  People getting injured or requiring hospitalization around the same time is hardly a significant enough connection to support ridiculous conspiracy theories.

For the fifth comment – well, I think my response on the post is sufficient.

To the last comment – at least she admits that she’s spoiled.  Rotten to the core, in point of fact.

In the interests of completion – although I’ve already responded to any accusations, and the like, here is how The Great Facebook Shitshow of 2018 played out on her own timeline.  Enjoy?